By CHRISTINE TRUONG, ‘17
To all millennial, Instagram users:
As I shoveled Pistachio-gelato into my mouth, I stared in bewilderment at my emotional friend. In a tear-streaked fit of rage, she hurled her phone across the room and shouted a long list of obscenities. “I can’t believe he liked her picture again,” she said. After consoling multiple friends about their boyfriends’ shady activity on Instagram, I think it’s safe to say that Instagram itself is the big elephant in the room.
Instagram has become a digital playground for today’s millennials. The popular social networking site seemingly invites unintended consequences for users in relationships. Instagram is the third party to any modern day relationship. Nearly 300 million people have accounts.
Respect and loyalty are foreign concepts to us millennials. With boyfriends and girlfriends breaking up left and right, it’s no wonder that Instagram is to blame.
Loyalty has taken a backseat to social media. The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers reported that one in five married adults use Facebook for flirting. Social media sites have made infidelity easier in today’s society. Cue the heartbreak and file the divorce papers.
Instagram users in consensual relationships are more susceptible to feelings of jealousy and insecurity. The issue of loyalty and mutual respect is continually undermined. Partners have to witness each other liking other users’ pictures, and that provokes feelings of the green jealousy monster.
According to a recent study by the Pew Research Center, nearly 67 percent of internet users in a committed relationship have shared personal, online passwords with their partners as of 2014. Although you may share a password, that does not prevent one partner from deleting the history of online activity. The activity feed on Instagram doesn’t exactly help you either if everyone sees what pictures are being favorited.
The stability of your relationship will continue to be threatened by the presence of social networking sites. It’s up to you to consider the possible consequences that might ensue your actions on Instagram. Loyalty seems like an endangered virtue nowadays, and someone else’s attractive selfie is the primary culprit. Most people look more attractive with an Instagram filter, but the consequences of your “double-tap” activity could be very ugly for your relationship.